My son learned biking with two wheels this year, it is a MILESTONE for us especially that my husband is a biker himself. I’m so proud. We bought him a new and better bike to use on trails and now he tries biking on little bumps and humps with full gear for protection of course
I’ve seen an excellent american dj – galaxian sky laser light galaxian sky techno player in a club when I went with a friend recently and I was stunned to see that this is now the “scene” in the clubs that used to be called a “disco” during our times (my age revealed here). Anyway, a friend of mine who loves music might be putting up a small club. I was suggesting that he puts up a business away from night life but this friend is young and loves to party plus he plays the guitar so he is thinking of this kind of business where he will keep him awake during the wee hours of the morning. Oh well, good luck to him!
During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, “How do I know if I married the right person?” I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, “It depends. Is that your husband?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?”
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind.
Here’s the answer. EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse/partner. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit) .
Falling in love with your spouse wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love… Because it’s happening TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.” Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is easy. It’s a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades. It’s the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, “Did I marry the right person?” And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages or relationship breakdown. People blame their spouse/partner for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage/relationsh ip for fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could.
And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):
THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE/RELATIONSH IP IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT’S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It’ll NEVER just happen to you. You can’t “find” LASTING love. You have to “make” it day in and day out. That’s why we have the __expression “the labor of love.” Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM.
You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage/relationship work. Sure true love can only happen after you’ve fallen out of love. When you begin choosing to love, even if you don’t feel like doing it —- that’s true love. And that’s the foundation of a lasting and strong marriage.
Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It’s a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. .. you can “make”love.
Love is indeed a “decision”.. . Not just a feeling. You’ll not just go away with your relationship just because the feeling is gone. In the Bible, love is a command. You make it happen.
Remember this always:
“God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.” FW: Ruth Beltran
“Marriage is more than saying I Do. Marriage, like a precious plant, needs constant tending for it to grow, flourish, and bear fruti to last a lifetime, and beyond”.
A friend of mine was telling me about a certain dr yee who is known to help patients for pain management. I wasn’t able to grasp about the specialty of the doctor until she told me that it is connected with detoxing patients for drug rehabilitation. Drug users are rampant all over the world and I hope we have doctors who specialize in these kinds of specialties to help more users for their rehabilitation. I know a few people who have love ones who were dependent on drugs and it was a very difficult stage in their life especially in seeking professional help in our country.
Media can’t be avoided especially in our modern world but there is a solution in limiting the use of gadgets for our kids. We all know that technology like everything when in excess is harmful. Here are a few tips from Baby Center for moms like me with kids like mine.
Many parents limit screen time by keeping TVs and computers in a central place – out of the child’s bedroom – but there are other ways you can manage your first grader’s screen appetite:
Start by setting firm rules on what’s permissible. Make sure your child asks before turning on anything.
Get involved. When you play with your child, you learn about why he’s fascinated with WebKinz. Your child also gets excited and feels special if you take an interest. Keep talking about what’s watched. These don’t have to be long, drawn-out discussions; just a comment here and there will sink in and teach your values. “Did you hear him talk back to his dad? Do you think that his mom give him a fair consequence?”
Perhaps the best thing you can do is to educate yourself about being a savvy technology consumer. Do you know how to set parental controls on the computer or TV? Have you considered TiVo, which will allow you to weed out commercials? Do you know exactly what movie and video games ratings indicate?